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Things You Can Control {a gift}


Its funny really.  Until my kids reached a certain age, I had little problem with control (or so I thought).  But once my hearts started walking around without me, it has increasingly become a problem (especially when one of them is a teenager).  I just always feel like the stakes are so much higher for everything that I do - and I have to constantly remember that most things are completely out of my control.

This has also helped me see how I have leveraged my ability to control situations throughout my life.  At times, I have simply left situations, and relationships that no longer suited my wishes - instead of staying in it and trying to grow and invest.

Though sometimes life calls for opting out of things - in general I'm not proud of this part of my history.  So, I work now on letting things go, and having trust in people and processes that are purposely beyond my control (and sometimes beyond my understanding).

So, lately I have been focusing more on my personal center of control.  What is within my power, and worth my time?  And of what must I let go?

And it really works for me.  I mean, I have never spent much time considering that I can choose how I will interpret situations (# 11).  But yeah, I hold the keys to my own reality, and only I can decide what I believe about...well, everything.  Its liberating, and is just helping realize how much I enjoy learning new things - especially as I get older.  What a gift.


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